1. Place a better photo of yourself on your profile. Making a good first impression is VERY important on and offline.

2. Make sure you are not sending the female a three word email like; " want to talk?". Make sure you engage her about who she is and what it says in her profile.

3.Do not give her your life story right off the bat. I personally delete all email in which a male send me his stats. He should have that information in his profile.

4. PLEASE read her profile, if it is not complete (of) who she is and what she wants, pass her by. The big excuse of both men and women on dating sites, is not to place an appropriate amount of information of themselves. They usually want you to come and find out more on your own. The problem with this analogy is .... people window shop naturally. Its silly to think someone should buy something without a good description of what they might be getting.

5. Be clear that you are searching for someone with the same type of dating or relation you are looking for.

Damn, Nythia covered *everything*. All very good advice.

All I'd add to it is *be yourself*. A good, smart woman is NOT going to be impressed with histrionics and empty, flowery words you may *think* will make her swoon (more likely she'll laugh).

A guy who writes me and is open, honest, & forthright (witty & intelligent helps too) is going to impress me WAY more than some idiot that writes "I am the man of your dreams and am going to sweep you off of your feet!!" *gag*

Be sincere - women can spot bullshit a mile away. Other than that and Nythia's advice up top, you should be good to go! Best of luck (and no, you are not at all ugly!)

just appreciate a woman