What is Infantilism?

By B. Terrance Grey

Briefly put, paraphilic infantilism is the desire to wear diapers and be treated like a baby ^[1]. It is often discussed alongside diaper fetishes. Those with infantilism tend to consider themselves adult babies (or ABs). Those with diaper fetishes tend to consider themselves diaper lovers (or DLs). Since many ABs also enjoy the interests of DLs and visa versa, they are collectively called AB/DLs or ABDLs.

Paraphilic Infantilism and Diaper Fetishes

Infantilism and diaper fetishism center around a core desire that almost always involves diapers. It might be similar to a lust or a hunger. Fetishes focus erotic energy on objects ^[2]. In diaper fetishism, the diaper itself becomes sexually arousing. This is similar to rubber fetishism, etc.

In contrast, infantilism focuses on the self. Paraphilic infantilism involves the desire to wear diapers as an expression of role. This roleplay may involve acting like and/or being treated as an infant, toddler, or small child. Infantilists are, in one sense, masochistic: Assuming the role of baby inherently involves surrendering control and status. While some translation is involved, the interests of infantilists expressed in concepts familiar to BDSM enthusiasts. However, these interests often don't include typical masochistic elements such as adult themed restraints. etc.^[3].

Both paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetishes are included in the wide grouping of desires called paraphilias. This group also includes a number of desires that used to be called "perversions." These paraphilias are not mutually exclusive ^[4]: It is possible to have both infantilism and diaper fetishism.

Because these desires are persistent but typically harmless, those who have them rarely seek medical help^[5]. Some would clearly not be helped^[6]. If help is sought, it is often for secondary guilt or depression^[7].

Who are the Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers?

Some who have these urges might not remember ever being without them. Others might associate their onset with an event or date. Typically, these urges are recognized or surface between the ages of 5 and 15. However, onset as late at ages as late as 53 has been reported ^[8]. Older infantilists and diaper lovers may have thought that they were alone and kept their desire carefully hidden^[9][10]. Only about one in twenty is female ^[11]. Most are heterosexual, but all orientations are present^[12][13].

Informally, those who engage in roleplay as an infant or toddler typically call themselves adult babies (or ABs). Those who do not engage in roleplay typically call themselves diaper lovers (or DLs). Those with infantilism tend to consider themselves adult babies, while those with diaper fetishes tend to consider themselves diaper lovers. These are two of a number of typical trends among ABs and DLs. While each individual has particular interests, they collectively form a continuum. Because of this, they are collectively called AB/DLs. On average for every 10 AB/DLs, one would report being 'AB only,' two 'mostly AB', three 'equally AB and DL', three 'mostly DL', and one 'DL only'. ^[14]. (This distribution is qualitatively similar to previous surveys^[15].)

A less ambiguous option to the AB and DL descriptors is to characterize by key themes: sexuality, loss of control, and regaining babyhood. Scenes and fantasies with these themes could be compared to fetishism, masochism, and transvestism respectively. There is, of course, a wide range of variations in ABDL fantasies and practices. It has been speculated that these tastes might give a clue to the original causes of ones infantilism.

Common fantasy elements include coercion, identification, regression, and exhibitionism. What infantilists actually do is more grounded in reality. For example, the AB fantasy of being someone's baby forever is common, but not generally practical^[16]. Some common elements of practice include wearing diapers, wetting or messing, binge-purge cycles, etc. For ABs, these might be structured into short 'visits with one's more cuddly side' . Footed sleepers, stuffed animals, and toys might also be involved. The majority of adult babies prefer to play a toddler, as opposed to newborn or small child ^[11].

Is Infantilism Sexual?

Infantilism is often incorrectly discussed as a fetish (e.g.^[6][17]). In truth, the desires of AB/DLs are sexual in some, but not inherently sexual in others. Here again, individual ABDLs have their own views, but collectively they form a continuum. About 4 in 10 include sexual practices, such as masturbation and intercourse, as an unrestricted part of their AB/DL games and fantasies. They are also the most likely to consider sexuality an important part. Another 4 in 10 excluded sexual practices from their AB/DL games and fantasies. They were most likely to report that sex 'must be absent.' For them, conventional sex might be present outside of their AB/DL games and fantasies. The remaining 2 in 10 reported that sexuality was an unimportant part of their AB/DL games and fantasies. They moderated the sexual practices or excluded them completely at particular times. ^[18].

Does it Involve Children?

No. Infantilism and diaper fetishes are often associated with pedophilia, even though they are not related^[19].

Associating infantilism and pedophilia is like equating transvestites and womanizers. Both do involve skirts, after all. Simply put, a womanizer is a man who likes to stare possessively at women. More specifically, he likes to stare at women's private parts, such as those covered by skirts. In contrast, a male-to-female transvestite likes to wear skirts himself. Once this difference is understood, it is clear that womanzing and transvestism are not related.

Simply put, pedophiles are sexually attracted to children, infantilists wish to be babies themselves for a while, and diaper fetishists are attracted to diapers. The presence of one does not imply another.

Infantilism and Other Disorders

Diaper use and regression are not unique to paraphilic infantilism and diaper fetishes. Because of this, they have been associated with a long list of other conditions and disorders. This list includes mental retardation ^[17], epilepsy^[20], obsessive-compulsive disorder ^[21], head injury^[22], dissociative identity disorder, etc^[23]. However, very few ABDLs have these other conditions. For example, ABDLs are generally capable of functioning as ordinary adults when necessary, unlike those with mental retardation. AB/DLs are also generally conscious of their actions and remember them afterwards. In contrast, a person with a child alter due to dissociative identity disorder might have no memory of what happens when he or she is in that alternate identity. In addition, ABDLs might enjoy non-repetitive scenes and fantasies, while those with obsessive compulsive disorder repeat their obsession to avoid some dreaded event or situation.

The conditions that infantilism and diaper fetishism might be misdiagnosed as are generally more severe. For example, it is common for adult babies to have a fondness for stuffed animals. Stuffed animals are sometimes used as an indicator of borderline personality disorder in adults( ^{[24] [25] [26]}). Borderline personality disorder involves a pattern of instability in relationships and self-image^[27]. It could be said that they are still going through an infant's transition towards self-awareness. Objects that play a role in this transition, called transitional objects, have a special status that fades when this transion is complete. Since adult babies have a mature sense of self, their stuffed animals do not have this special status. Borderline personality disorder also involves several serious symptoms absent in infantilism. If borderline personality disorder were present, stuffed animals, diaper use and regression would be the least of one's worries.

Most ABDLs don't have any of these other disorders, but there are exceptions. Those experiencing medical or psychological symptoms more serious than diaper rash should consider seeking professional help.

What do ABDLs Need?

We are all unique, but not alone. With one or two particular exceptions, the needs and wants of AB/DLs are common to us all.

Seeking the cause of one's infantilism might be worthwhile, but probably will not result in a "cure." For most ABDLs, it was a major part of their youths, and will continue to be part of their lives. Evaluating one's infantilism is necessary, since there are a number of reasons why it might or might not be acceptable. This is important, since there are social and moral concerns that need to be addressed. The benefits of these pursuits largely affect individual AB/DLs.

One effort that has shown global benefits are improvements in communication and understanding^[18]. Often stigmatized, and often confused with a number of things more sinister or serious, it is easy to get distracted from what infantilism basically is. The vast, individual variations in tastes and desires also help to distract. Paraphilic infantilism is the urge to wear diapers and act like a baby.

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	For More Detail: The history of the term Paraphilic Infantilism
	For a Second Opinion: Wikipedia's article on paraphilic infantilism "What is Infantilism" by Tom Lee (same title, different article) Essay on Paraphilic Infantilism includes accounts from a number of sources. It may have been composed by Bob G. A Review of Psychosexual Infantilism in Adults: The Eroticization of Regression by Thomas John Speaker by William A. Henkin. or at [sexuality.org] "What is Infantilism" (same title, different article) on TBDL.og

Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers

At any given moment, AB/DLs can be divided into two groups, based on their interests and fantasies. The line dividing between these groups can be as narrow as differences between a nurturing pat from a heated fondle. At a particular time, some AB/DLs will want to cuddle with mommy, assuming the role of the baby. Others will want a sexual encounter with their spouse, retaining the role of grown-up lover. This division generally affects three things: 1) the focus, 2) the roles played in fantasy or in scenes with an ideal partner, and 3) the level of sexuality in AB/DL play.

Diaper fetishes are the easiest to describe. They are a fetish, a sexual attraction to diapers or other infantile objects. In it, the diapers themselves serve as a sexual focus. Someone with a diaper fetish is commonly called a Diaper Lover. Diapers lovers might also include those who have a rubber fetish or plastic fetish, who might skip the diapers and focus on the rubber or plastic waterproof pants. The diaper lover's idealized partner would be an erotic lover. If their actual partner is willing, diapers might be incorporated into their sexual relationship. The DL might prefer to wear the diaper, to have his partner wear the diaper, or for both to wear diapers. The presence of diapers may lend itself to roleplay such as doctor-patient or nurse-patient, however, diaper fetishes don't inherently involve roleplay.

Paraphilic infantilism is not as easy to describe. (It is often called infantilism, for short.) Infantilism is not a fetish. Fetishes focus on a sexually charged object. Infantilism focuses on the self-image of the adult baby. The adult baby has an alternate self-image of a baby. This is similar to a transvestite, except that instead of engaging a female alter-ego every now and then, infantilists engage an infantile alter-ego. Adult Babies cannot physically become infants, but try to simulate infancy. This may include the use of adult-sized diapers and baby clothing, toys, baby oils and powders, etc. An adult baby will generally desire to play the role of an infant or toddler. If his partner is willing, she will play the mommy (or he will play the daddy). When roleplaying, the adult baby would try to achieve a baby-like mood or mindset. As a result, sex during roleplay would seem incestuous. The adult baby and partner may have an ordinary sexual relationship at other times, but not while engaged in infantilistic play. As would be expected, the baby wears the diapers.

Unlike those with a diaper fetish, infantilists are generally masochistic. Masochism is a desire be deprived of status, comfort, or control. Individual infantilists will fall into one of three sets, based on how their masochism is expressed. The first set is simply infantile. Assuming the role of baby inherently involves surrendering control. In some cases, this may be stretched into an early childhood role to include spanking or scolding. The second set has a conventional masochism that they practice when they aren't engaged in baby play. They might be in diapers one evening, and in leather or chains the next evening. The third set integrates conventional masochism into infantilism in a single scene. This might involve mixing baby items with bondage and discipline that would be abusive if used on a real baby. The hard restraints bring a tangible sense of powerlessness but tend to corrupt any sense of nurturing. Because of this, the practices of the third set are incompatible with the other two sets of adult babies.

While the division between adult baby and diaper lover fantasies is clear at a particular moment, individual AB/DLs might engage in both. They can only engage in one or the other at any given time. Many AB/DLs describe themselves as "mostly AB" or "mostly DL", based on which they engage in more.

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This manual is written for the new (or experienced) mommy who wants to know how to make this experience a happy one for both mommy and adult baby. We hope you find it interesting and helpful in your search for ways to share your lives together.

WHY ADULT BABIES AND MOMMIES?

Why should a woman enjoy forcing or easing her husband into an adorable and/or humiliating costume of diapers, plastic panties and baby clothes? What would make a man, often a powerful, highly paid professional, gladly submit to (or crave) this kind of treatment. What is so much fun about playing mommy/baby games?

The reasons generally fall into three categories. First, there is the joy of escaping into a fantasy world. Second, there is the sheer sensual delight of the costumes, the emotional risk, and the physical stimulation. Finally, there is the bliss of sharing the deepest possible intimacy and trust between two people.

The Joy Of Fantasy

No matter how pleasant and fulfilling one's daily life is, sometimes we all need to escape from our roles as responsible adults, dutiful workers, or dedicated family members. The more stressful our role is, the further it is from our own deepest impulses, the more we need an escape from the limitations of everyday life. Some people use alcohol, drugs or gambling to transcend their ordinary lives, but these activities generally prove to be both destructive and unsatisfying. The escape provided by a rich fantasy life, however, can be constructive and extraordinarily fulfilling. Instead of destroying true intimacy, a shared fantasy increases it. Instead of harming the body, sexual release helps it. Instead of stifling the needs of our true self, fantasy allows us to express and realize our true needs.

A New and Powerless Self

But what pleasure can a male find in the role of a submissive baby, a role that many people might see as embarrassing or demeaning? Can it be that he has an inner need, a secret self that he cannot acknowledge or express in his ordinary life? Has he been taught that boys mustn't cry, or wear frilly clothes, or be passive? Does he feel constantly pressured to be strong, to be silent, to be a macho man?

Maybe he needs to play the role of a diapered baby or little schoolboy so that he can express emotions that are normally forbidden to him, and to wear taboo clothing. Given society's constant demands on men to be masculine, to take charge, to succeed, to get it up and keep it up, to do instead of be, it is no wonder that even the strongest, brightest, and most successful male may seek contact with his hidden softer self in his relationship to a "mommy's" firm but kindly rule.

The pleasures of the adult baby are the polar opposites of (and therefore closely akin to) the pleasures of the "Mommy". It is a truism that all polarities express the opposite ends of a single principle or idea. Like yin and yang, darkness and light, baby male and mommy need one another to be complete.

Intense Stimulation

The baby male enjoys being 'mommied' because it feels good. His major reward is sexual pleasure of an exceptionally intense and prolonged nature. Some of the components of that pleasure may not seen too enjoyable - spankings or enemas - but even these are pleasurable, partly because they are so intense, and partly because they promote a psychological letting go. Baby play in a wet or dry diaper usually enables a male to achieve a splendid orgasm (if his Mommy permits).

The Freedom to Feel

Paradoxically, many people find Mommy and Baby fantasies liberating in that they give real permission to let go and enjoy acts, clothes, or sensations that are otherwise hidden or discouraged. Moreover, even a naughty baby need feel no guilt for enjoying these things; not only does his strict or gentle mommy put him (or force him) into those ruffled panties or that demeaning position, she also "punishes" him for his transgressions. The scenario of misbehavior, punishment, and forgiveness is a classic Aristotelian plot that offers both actors emotional catharsis.

The baby's release sometimes may even includes tears During fantasy play, many 'babies' resolve other tensions in their lives. Some males cannot cry except in the context of their fantasy life. Others need to express other taboo emotions: like fear, anger, rebellion, contrition, submissiveness or helplessness. After a forbidden outburst, his Mommy can punish him and then offer forgiveness and consolation.

Adult babies, especially those in positions of extraordinary responsibility, often seek respite from the stress of having to constantly make decisions. It's a relief to be told precisely what to do and how to do it, to have the penalties for mistakes so clear-cut and so immediate. A session of disciplining a school age boy who wets his pants, for example, may be painful but it is also sure to have a happy ending. Real life is never so well choreographed or so satisfying.

Sharing Intimacy

Without trust, a Mommy/Baby relationship is impossible. Only trust allows the partners to discuss their fantasies in the first place, much less act them out in great detail. If the fantasy entails some humiliation or pain (and what baby fantasies do not have at least a little of this?), the deepest possible trust is necessary to make the relationship work. In fact, one cannot imagine a truly satisfying mommy/baby relationship outside the bounds of marriage or a long-term commitment. One-night stands simply don't work as well. It is impossible to pick someone up, learn each other's needs, fulfill them, and then disappear, all within the space of a few hours.

Trust

By giving himself over to his mommy, a male is saying, "I trust you completely." But what does that trust entail?

First, the Mommy is responsible to know and respect her partner's desires. If she strays too far from his desires, he may feel frustrated, disappointed, and unsatisfied. If she goes too far beyond the edge, he could be hurt, emotionally or physically. Learning how to satisfy a man's needs and limits is a complex process, and it takes time.

Nevertheless, once that trust has been established, it is one of the greatest sources of joy in a marriage. Many 'mommies' know that their husbands trust them completely. The 'babies' know that their mommy is responsive and loving to their more conventional needs, and that he can trust her.

Faithfulness

A good mommy also knows that her husband would never be unfaithful. Being a good mommy makes him want to stay home with his loving Bride. If you believe that males are fated by nature to stray because they crave sexual variety (a view that may be biologically accurate for primates living in the wild, but not for human beings living in an advanced civilization), think again. The great majority of happy adult babies have no "need" to be unfaithful; between plain vanilla intercourse and adult-baby scenes, they get quite enough sexual variety at home.

Perhaps most important, sharing fantasies deepen the bonds between husband and wife. An adult baby male knows his Mommy/Wife understands his deepest sexual needs (needs he may have always been too ashamed of and too frightened to share). He will be a contented, faithful, and affectionate husband. A Mommy/Wife who understands her husband's fantasies well enough to construct a satisfying play/session for him will also understand other vital things about him, and she will be strong enough to demand her rights and consideration too. Marriages in which the wife sometimes plays the Mommy role are often the most egalitarian and the most truly satisfying. Furthermore, the adult/baby relationship is often played out as a switch: one time she takes control, the next time he does. Such trust and intimacy are bound to make for a very happy marriage.

THE MOMMY ROLE

The wife or woman who enacts the Mommy role enjoys the intoxicating sensation of complete power over her baby. Few males are as readily dominated as the adult baby. Moreover, in this fantasy the Mommy and Baby are unusually close and intimate; the emotional distance so necessary in many other kinds of Dominance/Submissive fantasies are completely inappropriate here.

For the male, this fantasy is a trip back in time, to the cataclysmic era of babyhood. No baby understands that things change, that what he is experiencing in this moment is not eternal. To an infant, all sensations are overwhelming: he is totally helpless and totally loved or totally punished.

The intensity of these feelings is enhanced by his absolute irresponsibility. A baby has no duties; he cannot work, plan, or decide. All he can do is feel. He luxuriates in sensations, emotional and physical, piercing, tumultuous, ecstatic. Some of these delights are understandably forbidden to the adult: the warm wet pleasure of soggy diapers for example, or the bliss of drinking from a nippled bottle. If modern society permitted grown-ups such indulgences, no one would ever get any work done; we would all be occupied in counting our toes, sucking our thumbs, and keeping one hand down our diapers, exploring the various features of our hidden physiognomy. Also, there would be no one to change those diapers when they grew chilly and uncomfortable, to bring us bottles, or tuck us in at night. Only the adult infant has the pleasure of escaping from grown-up duties to become a baby again.

The Elements Of Fantasy

The Adult/Baby fantasy is designed to make the baby feel loved and protected on the one hand, or thoroughly embarrassed and punished on the other. In short, it often re-creates infancy in all its aspects. A careful Mommy will see to it that the script, costumes and setting all maintain the illusion of an all-powerful, loving Mommy in charge of a helpless yet secure baby.

Of course, it should not be necessary to point out that the adult-baby is an infant only in fantasy. This play is meant solely for the amusement of consenting adults, not for imposition on helpless and innocent children.

The Script

At least in the beginning, a simple script or idea is best. While enacting the role of an infant, your adult baby is incapable of making lengthy confessions or performing complex service. You as Mommy will not only be making all the decisions, but also doing all the work. Indeed, the question of which partner is really in charge always intrudes on these scenarios. Although the baby ends up well-diapered or well-punished, he is also a tiny autocrat, demanding food, attention, care, and fussing from his devoted, affectionate Mommy.

Costumes

Your adult baby needs many of the costumes a chronological infant finds useful. First and foremost, he should have diapers. No baby is well-dressed without them. Large-sized diapers for incontinent adults are obviously available from DPF, including rubber or plastic pants, cloth diapers,and adult-size baby clothing.

For the Mommy of a young infant, a snap-open nursing bra is a nice touch. Exotic dress, heavy perfume, long scarlet nails, and startling makeup are as out of place here as they would be in any nursery. A sense of warm, clean, safe comfort is the goal.

Setting and Props

The nursery itself may be any bedroom, but one decorated for an infant, featuring lots of pink and blue ruffles, lambs and bunnies, and a softly shaded night light is best. The baby should have toys appropriate to his age and sex; stuffed animals are a favorite, along with rattles, pacifiers and books of nursery rhymes for Mommy to read aloud. The only appropriate music is children's music, either recorded favorites of the Mommy's own lullabies, sung in the twilight to put baby to sleep.

Of course, no nursery would be complete without an array of baby bottles, pacifiers, baby powder, clean diapers, and a changing surface of some kind. A potty chair is also a nice touch for Mommies who have older charges or who give enemas. Adult sized potty chairs are available from medical-supply houses, and while they are forbiddingly utilitarian, they can be decorated in a nursery motif using stencils. A small wooden chair for corner time or a wooden hairbrush to maintain discipline is sometimes helpful.

THE SKILL OF A MOMMY

What makes a women a good Mommy? Genuine affection for your charge, mo matter how troublesome he may be, is the first requirement. You may have to discipline his naughty bottom, but your firmness must be tempered by warmth and care. After all, you are doing this not for your own sake, but for his.

Diapers

If you have ever cared for a chronological infant, you will know exactly what the adult baby wants and needs. Wearing diapers is the height of the experience for the adult baby, but not just the removal of one garment and the substitution of another. There are also all the other rituals of washing, drying, powdering, applying ointment, and so forth. On the other hand, the ritual of the diaper change can be the focus of a great deal of erotic play. It is, in fact, the usual way for the adult baby to achieve orgasm.

Spankings

If spankings are part of your mommy/baby play, the intensity should vary with the situation. Ordinary naughtiness may demand a brief flurry of fairly hard spanks, but a longer spanking should start slow and build in weight and intensity. The question of whether to leave diapers on or take them off is frequently debated. Although a bare-bottom spanking is classic, a soiled diaper is definitely best left on, no matter what tradition says. A wet diaper might be spanked dry, or the soggy diaper could be pulled down to expose the skin.

Enemas and Corner Time

Some adult baby fantasies include an enema. To make the enema a pleasurable experience, you should decide whether the procedure is a punishment or a health measure and script the scene accordingly. If you have a potty chair, now is the time to seat him in it. Praise and fuss over him once he has emptied his bowels, telling him that now he'll be a good little baby. You might even wash him up, though some Mommies prefer to let baby wipe himself.

THE NEEDS OF A BABY

The needs of an adult baby are not difficult to understand. He doesn't yearn to suffer through ordeals to prove his manhood. He wants to forget his manhood - with all its associated macho posturing, cut-throat competition, lies and insincerity, and adult worries. He wants to return to the simplicity, warmth, and attention he had (or needed) in his earliest years. If you can offer him affection, attention, and some discipline, he will reward you with pleasant play and great affection.

ENACTING THE SCENE

Act One

The adult baby is unlikely to challenge your authority per se, although he may throw an occasional tantrum. Nevertheless, the early stage is crucial in the adult-baby fantasy, not as a test of your rule, but as a distinctly pleasurable experience in itself. During this time, you may choose to indulge yourself and your baby in any combination of the following activities:

1. Dressing him in baby clothes
   
2. Diapering him (these first two are de rigueur)
   
3. Playing with infant toys
   
4. Playing peekaboo and other baby games
   
5. Putting him down for a nap
   
6. Telling him bedtime stories
   
7. Cuddling
   
8. Using a pacifier
   
9. Bottle feeding
   
10. Feeding him baby food
    
11. Nursing him at the breast
    
12. Tying him to the crib so he won't fall or crawl out
    
13. Toilet training

Act Two (Optional)

Sadly, even in the cozy paradise of the nursery, your adult baby may throw a tantrum necessitating a spanking, or he may wet or soil his diapers, in which case you may also choose to sentence your baby to an enema, corner time, stammered apologies, or perhaps slapped fingers.

If you decide to spank him, begin the punishment with a scolding. Pull the boy over your lap and pull down his pants or pull up his skirts, exposing the diaper. You may wish to begin the castigation with the diaper still covering his rosy bottom, later progressing to a bare-bottom spanking. With the naughty baby over your lap, lecture him sternly, but in terms he can understand, telling how disappointed Mommy is with his behavior. Similar techniques are useful in the administration of the enema.

The adult baby is usually happy to break down in sobs at the threat of loosing Mommy's love. He will be contrite and sweet after punishment, hoping to win back his Mommy's lost love.

Act Three

Consolation for the adult infant is strikingly similar to the initial establishment of your authority. It may consist of cuddling, games, kisses, and so forth. However, to bring the game to a close, you should detect baby's need for a new diaper. While changing him, you may surreptitiously rub and fondle him, until he wets the diaper in a somewhat more adult manner.

VARIATIONS ON THE FANTASY

Sometimes a male prefers to be an older boy in his fantasy. You may choose to become his Nursemaid, Auntie, an Older Girl or Governess in response. An older or naughty boy can be punished for disobedience by a temporary relegation to nursery status. Reducing an "older child", in fantasy, to the status of a baby can be very exciting for both mommy and baby. During the time that you are conducting this fantasy, you must treat your older boy as an infant, with the associated humiliation and embarrassment.

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To Register as a DPF Babysitter you need to do two things:

1) You must be a Listed DPF member in either the On-Line Roster, Printed Roster, or both. You can do this NOW if you wish.

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List of DPF Babysitters

as of March 30, 2004

You will find below a list of Babysitters currently Registered with DPF. Each of these Babysitters is also listed in the DPF Roster, either printed or on-line. Some have been DPF members for many years. Until recently they were listed as Babysitters only in the DPF Newsletter, but their services are now available to all Adult Babies on the Web. If you contact any of these Babysitters, please let them know that you saw their Babysitting Listing on this page.

NOTE: DPF makes no guarantee and does not assume any responsibility for interactions between Babysitters listed on this page and anyone who contacts them for babysitting services. They are listed on this page only as a service to the Adult Baby community.

F8 = Male Sitter (Daddy, Big Brother) Available	F11 = Straight Baby OK
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F10 = Gay Baby OK	F13 = Sitter Is A Professional

Label Name	Address	City State	ZIP	Email/Phone	Page	Hour	Day	Wknd	F8	F9	F10	F11	F12	F13
Cherub		Sydney, Australia 2000		Cherub@cyberbabies.com		$300	$1800	$3600	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes
Marc Davis		Weymouth, MA	02189	forced2serve@aol.com		$75	N/A	N/A	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
Marcus Richards	26 June St.	Sanford, ME	04083	(207) 324-0818	1866	$35	$250	$400	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
Meg Harris		Bronx, NY	10463	nycsitter@yahoo.com		$50	N/A	$800	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	Yes
bob cacace	60 northview terrace	yonkers, NY	10703	gokartracer967@msn.com	1824	$180	N/A	neg.	Yes	No	No	No	No	No
Alex Quinn		Yonkers, NY	10708	alexq35@hotmail.com		$50	$200	$500	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
Kevin		Sloatsburg, NY	10901	Kevin15776@aol.com	1460	$30	flex.	flex.	Yes	No	No	Yes	No	No
OCCUPANT	3864 Pastime Park	Geneva, NY	14456	pampersphasin@mail.com	1904	$10	Neg.	Neg.	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
MommyPlayful1		York, PA	17315	mommy4thebabies @hotmail.com	1485	$50	$350	$900	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	No
Douglas Frederick	PO Box 361	Temple, PA	19560		1853	$20	N/A	N/A	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
Call me Mommy		Lauderhill, FL	33319	trina_2me@yahoo.com	this	neg.	$100	neg.	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	No
Dwight Nutting	151 N. 6th St.	Columbus, OH	43215		1751	$35	$400	$1250	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	Yes
Lady Jayne		Cleveland, OH	44142	Symplyjayn@aol.com 216-431-4348 M-F, 10am-6pm		Neg.	Neg.	N/A	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	??
Mike DeNeut	721 Locust St.	LaPorte City, IA	50651	md16185@yahoo.com 319-404-7356 any		$25	$200	$350	Yes	No	No	Yes	No	Yes
Joel Schmidt		St. Louis, MO	63006	nightelf2@fehq.org	1737	$10	$50	$100	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
		Denton, TX	76201	SpringChicken1964 @yahoo.com 940-484-0487		neg.	neg.	neg.	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	No
		Phoenix, AZ	85012	phoenixdom@hotmail.com		$300	$1800	Neg.	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes
Zenith Golden	4114 Iowa St.	San Diego, CA	92104	619/298-5844	1902	$175	No	No	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	Yes
Mommy Nanny		anaheim, CA	92809	Funnygrrlz@hotmail.com	1934	neg.	neg.	neg.	N/A	Yes	OK	OK	No	Yes
Lady MoonDance		San Francisco, CA	94124	mstresmoon@aol.com	1360	$175	neg.	neg.	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	Yes
Danny Spillman	P.O. Box 5144	Berkeley, CA	94705	510-435-4184 any time, will return	1895	$30	$200	N/A	Yes	No	No	Yes	No
Jerry McAllister	P.O. Box 538	Lucerne, CA	95458	707-274-7170 after 5pm	1935	neg.	neg.	neg.	Yes	No	Yes	Yes	No	No
THOMAS JOHN PRITTIE	2526 "L" Street #104	Sacramento, CA	95816	prittietom@juno.com 916-442-2451 After 6 p.m. PST.	1896	$.99	$23.99	$23.99	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes
Julie Larson	34 S.E. 60th ave #1	Portland, OR	97215	tiffanytalksj@hotmail.com	1896	$50	$250	$300	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	No	Yes
BOXHOLDER	P O Box 3257	Bournemouth, D	BH3 7ZT	07714559399	1863	£100	neg.	N/A	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes
Andrew Gronneberg	245 Thurso Crescent	Dundee, Menzieshill	DD2 4AU	dpfsite@scotbus.com	1762	Neg.	Neg.	Neg.	Yes	TV male	Yes	Yes	No	No
Mummy Love	available worldwide	England, XX	KT12	adultbabycare@hotmail.com (44) 7971 674103		£120	neg.	neg.	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes
Mama Thompson			SK14 1HF	mummylovesbaby @hotmail.com		£100	£500	neg.	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Tes
David Grady	1 Brigade Place	London,	SW19 1EF	yessir31@hotmail.com	1880	£5	£25	£40	Yes	No	No	Yes	No	No
Riki Tate	High Street Kensington	London, UK	w8 4nd	07950637695 Monday-Fri 10am-5pm	1782	£120	£500	n/a	No	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes	Yes