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Relationships, Nurturing


	<p> "Oh, he has been sick since Thursday," says A. "Sick?" I say and then laugh wholeheartedly. "Why are you laughing?" says A, my former lover. "Because you and sick do not go together." A responds: "I sent him to his apartment. He asked what I would do if we had only one apartment. I told him 'see that bedroom is yours. This is mine. I can not get sick. I need to work." When A and I were together, she was ever so pleased by my support, nurturing when she was sick. Sometimes she'd have me at her side to rub what hurts, talk be affectionate and do errands. Other times she'd want to be alone, until her voice would call out. In my view of nurturing we support without requiring, we put in real effort and even take risk in order to help the one we love. Now Enabling of Co-dependence is a danger, a danger that clear communication can prevent. When should one drop one's own priorities to do what is asked by one's partner? The impact on each person will show the answer. 2 weeks later looking back, which choice would be better? Defer to doing what s/he asks. Nurturing provides safety. Ideally it provides listening with understanding. Nurturing encourages to be strong while supplementing where strength is lacking. Your child is learning to ride a bicycle, doing pretty well with training wheels. Should you intervene when s/he starts to take off the training wheels? Converse, but do not control the choice. Discuss the possible scraped knee or banged head. Explain that the risk can be removed if you walk along side to grab the bike if needed. Then let her ride, even with you told to go in the house and not look. Are you Nurturing while not Co-dependent? I'd like to hear from you. Bruce </p>

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