Maybe at the end of the day what it all boils down to regarding the misuse of these dating sites is our tolerance levels to those who shouldnt be here but are . They invade these sites through desperation and the compunction to enrich their their squalid existence. How harshly shall we judge them ? Would we in their similar plight not be tempted to do the same thing especially if it meant feeding our children ? At the end of the day these people are relatively easy to spot - they use a vocabulary which is far from european educated white female - the photographs are too polished and are obviously from a magazine - their intensity is all so a giveaway - no self respecting woman would throw herself at an ugly mugshot on the site and pledge lifelong love for someone she contact only minutes before - perhaps we are the ones that should be booted from the site for our incompetence and stupidity - scammer versus stupid man - i need to collate the results but as yet it doesnt look good .